I made a post the other day titled as “I stood him up.” …. We got into a huge argument after I stood him up. i never met up with him. I stopped considering meeting him too because he’s acting crazy and pressuring me like crazy. Im really scared everyone. I keep having strange accounts following me on instagram. He’s Korean and I know there’s certain types of forum pages and im scared he has posted me there.
A guy who texted me and followed me asked me “아 혹시 일탈계 아닌가요??” and another “개이쁘긴하내” my account is private
My ex bf threatened me with this before and said I would sell because it’s so pretty. Im extremely worried right now. I changed my username and he’s blocked but i still think he can see me. The accounts are all Korean male sex accounts.
The 4th~6th are recent after I talked with him after I stood him up. I’ve been ignoring him and he texted me this morning on kakao talk. “야“
Im so sick and stressed that I can’t sleep. He’s completely delusional too. He thinks I am with a man or have a secret bf. HE IS THE ONE WHO CHEATED ON ME. The night before Christmas was even more crazier, he was going to come to where im at and was talking crazy. Mentioning that there’s no life without me.
I felt so guilty for not meeting him but I feel so relieved that I didn’t. I kept feeling he wants to get revenge on me. He mentioned me bringing all my luggage to his place and then I can get changed into comfortable clothes and we’ll go out to eat.
By the way.. I threaten him to expose the type of person he is to his friends. I never mentioned sending or selling his photos or videos to anyone. But i would never do that. It was simply just saying. But I think he’s sending my personal things on a forum page or to people. Im not sure but im scared. Im thinking about deleting my accounts. I don’t want this to go to the police either. I just want to handle this the best way that I can.
Is there any advice? Any support? Opinion..?
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Why do you not want to report this to the police?
Please go to the police. Report it. For the future at least.
Omg hes such a pathetic loser. Like ok u send ur nudes to ur literal bf, but posting it without consent is a crime
Go talk to the police. Based on the texts from your crazy ex, I assume you speak Korean? If you don’t, some law firms offer English counsel.
1345 is a hotline for foreigners that require aid.
I haven’t seen your other post, but I’m assuming you’re freaking out based on your post. Keep calm.
Do not meet with him, do not provoke him over text, and keep a pdf copy of all the threats that he made.
Is there a reason why you don’t want to go to police about it? Because while I don’t know the full situation, it seems like he’s virtually stalking/harassing you, and threatening to release explicit content of you if you don’t comply to his will (Black mail). If you don’t want to go to the police, is there a pro-bono lawyer you can talk to about this situation?
I’m not in Korea myself, so I’m not going to be a much of help. Hopefully someone else can chime in. In the mean time, block him on everything, and ideally cut off everything from social media if it causes you mental stress until things die down. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Hang in there, OP.
The only suitable advice anybody can give at this stage is to make sure you’re safe, and to go to the police. If either of those things poses a problem post again
Definitely go to the police
You absolutely need to go to the police :/ remember to save everything, and make all phone calls record automatically. If you’re not in Korea… I think you might need to use consular services or reach out to your local police so they can liaise with Korean police. Good luck 🙁
Not legal advice, but I’d definitely be surprised if this wasn’t a crime.
Block them. Do not answer stranger!! I do not get why you are scared, Korean know crimes in Korea so why you are scared. (Posting nude photo is crime). Do not text or speak with strangers!! No one can hurt you if you did not do crime. I went to court and won the case, (my landlord didnot give my deposit back). If they go to report you, he should pay court fee!! You think he will pay 70K won for this? No. So do not woory and ignore them from now. Even if you go to court, you report it to your embessy, they will send lawyer
Just out of curiosity, why is that guy using such broken Korean?
Report him ASAP with all the evidence you have. Why would someone who is publishing your personal picture just be free without facing repercussions for his actions? Also, change your phone number so you don’t have to deal with his bs.
Just call the Police. They do have English interpreters available when you call 112 (the emergency number). Just going straight to a police station with a friend who speaks Korean, or contacting the Sunflower Center (they specialize in sexual violence support and have English-speaking staff: hotline 1366, or check their website).
If you’re worried, you can also reach out to your embassy first—they can accompany you or help translate. Don’t let fear stop you. reporting it is important for your safety and might prevent it happening to others. Stay safe.
That is in Kakaotalk. Text message in Kakaotalk is enough proof for the police to act. Go to your nearest police station and seek help
Go to the police show the messages
Literally why are you asking this on Reddit go to the police
If you happen to live in Seoul, maybe you can ask for help here: http://www.onseoulsafe.kr/load.asp?subPage=710
or maybe here: https://d4u.stop.or.kr
It’s run by the city/government and they offer legal aid, counseling service, and removal services
I hope for the best OP. This is disgusting and should never happen to anyone. I would contact them first before reporting the police since you’ll get a lot of support.
1. Gather as much data as you can about his abusive behavior. Make sure to download all your conversations in verifiable file types. If he was physically abusive and you have photos, hospital records etc. those help. Any or all voice recordings, too. He is clearly blackmailing.
2. Look up law firms. The pricing may be intimidating but there are tons that give free counsel. There should be firms that specialize in these kinds of cases. Even just having the business card of a lawyer helps immensely when talking to the police. The lawyer may also give you advice about what to talk about.
3. Go to the police. There are certain stations that are better suited for these cases. If you are worried about your Korea, ask a friend who is fluent in Korean to accompany you. Mention you have a lawyer as well. Police get much more attentive when they know you have legal counsel.
Korea really cracks down hard on the illegal, involuntary distribution of female content with nudity.
경찰에 신고하세요. 스토킹은 심각한 범죄입니다.
Thank you for everyone who is helping me and sending me information. I really don’t know how any of this works but thank you. I will go to the police and see what happens. Honestly I’ve been scared to leave the accommodation. I feel like he’s everywhere. I will do my best. Thank you.
Report to the police right now. This is considered serious crime in Korea and I am sure you will be protected with extra patrol in your area
Report to the police immediately as <cyber crime>.
https://ecrm.police.go.kr/minwon/main
If you can’t speak Korean and that interferes with the process (I don’t know if it’s the case). I might be able to help with reporting.
꼭 신고 바랍니다. 사이버 범죄신고는 비교적 간단합니다. 그가 한국인인지 아니면 외국인인지는 모르겠지만, 지금 행동으로는 충분히 접근금지 등의 법적 효력이 가능할 듯 보입니다.
Please go to the local police station, show them these images, they will allot you with someone who speaks English… Generally, Police takes these things seriously, they don’t normally takes side with someone just because the other person is Korean… Take advice from them and stay safe
Just take it to a law firm.
Hes blackmailing. Simple as that. They’ll generally back off.
This is crime
I’m Korean. You have a duty to yourself and potential future victims to report this. There are free legal counselling available for cases like these, for foreigners as well (which is specified by law). go to a police station and they will connect you to legal resources before you can decide on whether you want to make a report or not. he commited an illegal act (I think 통신매체이용음란죄) which could probably place him on a sex offenders list
Go to police, not reddit.
If you don’t go to the police, then no one here can help you. I really don’t understand people’s logic. For example, “My ex is threatening to kill me and keeps stalking me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to go to the police like a sane logical person because that would be too easy. I want to make myself suffer first.Let me go ask reddit because I’m sure they will know what to do.”
아니 근데 왜 한국어가 되게 문어체임? 외국인인데 번역기쓰는 놈임? 되게 표현도 양놈스럽네