Behavioral scientists found that people with genuinely strong mindsets don’t tell themselves to be positive – they’ve learned to observe their thoughts without identifying with them, a distinction most people never understand.
Behavioral scientists found that people with genuinely strong mindsets don’t tell themselves to be positive – they’ve learned to observe their thoughts without identifying with them, a distinction most people never understand.
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Mindfulness. Observer.
Omg this is totally me like what?
My mental health providers call this insight
>Someone who has learned cognitive defusion experiences the same thought, but with a subtle and crucial difference. They notice it. “Oh, there’s that thought again. The not-good-enough one.” They can see it without becoming it. The thought is still there. But it doesn’t run the show.
I tend to compartmentalize a lot of things. Even self doubt. If I can’t do something about an issue, I put it away in a box until I can. If I am feeling insecure, I can put that away too.
I don’t know if its the same as this study and its not always a good thing for me.
Yeah, you’re not your inner voice, you’re the one that hears it. Therefore, you can choose how you relate to that voice.
I learned to do this last summer. I was meditating and observing my internal state. I watched it change from neutral to strongly anxious within minutes, for no apparent reason. Made me realize that my body and mind are sometimes just playing with me. I would think badly because I was in a bad state. When you go looking for enemies where there are none, you find enemies where there are none.
This is a blog post with no new research, why is this here?
“Don’t believe everything you think.”
This sounds a lot like how I felt when I started taking SSRIs
See. I am arguing with myself and its ok.
Checkout Eckhart Tolle’s books.
Treat your inner voice as an outsider and question it all the time. This will limit your impulsive behaviors. Helped me quit cigs.
Wait, so my brain can constantly tell me I’m a loser and that I’m worthless but I don’t necessarily have to believe it?
Your thoughts are leaves in a stream, you are the observer watching them flow by.
I’ve read abour this before. Science largely backs the idea that your brain is a non-stop “thought factory,” much like your heart is a 24/7 pump. This constant mental chatter is driven by the Default Mode Network, a system that keeps your gray matter buzzing with simulations and memories even when you aren’t focused on a specific task. Because many of these thoughts are just random neurological noise or intrusive flashes, neurobiology and modern psychology emphasize that **you are not your thoughts**; instead, your prefrontal cortex acts as an executive editor, tasked with filtering this chaotic, involuntary brainstorming into the intentional decisions that actually define you.
*I had to use a little help from Gemini, since english is not my main language.
Imaging you are the puppet master… And your thoughts are the puppet.
Been thinking like that for 20 years.
I argue with my inner thoughts.
I wonder if this is why meditation often performs well in studies about coping with life. It’s literally a training platform for how to not engage with your own train of thought.
Seperation of self from one’s ego is very powerful.
I’m not a naturally positive person, but I’ve damn sure learned the mental tools for how to attain a positive attitude – and therefore enjoy my life.
As soon as I heard Akron/family sing: I am not my thoughts I, I started working at connecting with this idea. It’s something westerners are not taught to examine outside of art and literature, but we all should get into the practice of radical honesty and critical self reflection and meditation generally.