Charges dropped because he said ‘I wanted it’
In 2024 I was raped multiple times and hospitalised. The perpetrator accompanied me to the hospital each time. No one questioned my injuries. He was extremely general and kind and no one questioned if he was the culprit. I was bleeding from both my anus and vagina. I was given morphine to be able to sit. I was terrified of telling anyone what had happened and he had threatened to take my son.
Fast forward I managed to leave him. I built up a home for us. However The harassment continued. He threatened to send people to hurt myself and my son and tried to blackmail me with money. I was forced to go to the police and social services. The social services directly told us to pack a bag and to be ready to relocate for our safety. We did. The police process has taken over a year. I was interrogated 4 times. His threats are documented. As for the rape, he was finally questioned last month and yesterday I found out the case would be dropped. The reason being that I didn’t tell the hospital staff he had hurt me and he claimed that I enjoyed rough sex and it was consensual. I have witnesses who the police didn’t bother to question, records of threats that are disregarded; the list goes on. I’m thinking of appealing. Any advice?
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Posted by Imstillstanding12
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Danner
Lev uden vold
These two organizations can help you
Im so sorry to hear this…
The same experience I got from the police when I was 16 and SA’ed…
“Danner” is for domestic violence relations and more.
“Lev uden vold” is another one that might help you.
I’m so sorry to hear that it’s still happening. Please just remember that you are believed, you are worth a good life living, and you are telling the truth.
Thank you for sharing and I hope you get help to get you move forward ❤️
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Når du får ressourcerne til det, håber jeg du vil gå til noget direkte anvendeligt kampsport. Krav Maga eksempelvis.
Er virkeligt ked af at du er blevet udsat for sådan noget. Jeg synes at det er så sejt at du står frem med det. Ønsker dig alt det bedste i livet fremover
When you receive the letter from police that they are dropping the charges you can file a complaint and the case will be reevaluated by statsadvokaten. Might be good at least to get a second opinion from them
Yeah danish police is in a really bad State rn, as soon as they actually have to Investigate they will find ways to drop the case. There is a DR dokumentar about it. However, there Are ways to Force Them to do their work via the general attorney
Police’s a joke. Go to the press
You may want to add a nsfw tag and a trigger warning. Your pictures could send another person spiraling. I know this is not your intention.
It’s disgusting that you’re not taking serious when something so serious happens. I see other people have already helped redirecting you, so I just want to share that I’m mortified and so so sorry for you.
I have never felt so angry on behalf of someone I don’t know. This is so WRONG, everything – what happened to you and how it was handled.
Danner and Lev uden vold are good suggestions but I wish the police and hospital had been enough.
The thought that they saw those texts and still dropped the case of rape is… I don’t have words. I’m so, so sorry that this happened to you. Thank you for speaking up about it❤️❤️❤️
I’m really sorry this happened to you, and just as sorry that our lazy, undermanned police force has failed you. I don’t have any good advice – I just wanted to say I believe you, and I hope you and your kid stay safe from this absolute disgrace of a “man.”
I hope you and your lawyer manage to nail both the rapist and the cops trying to close the case to the wall. If you’re in a place to do so, our media outlets are currently dogging on the police for falling to do their jobs. One more (anonymous) example of their gross negligence would probably be welcome in their inboxes.
Is there more to this story, did you come to Denmark as a prostitute, is this guy your husband, father to the kid, why do he say you owe him money.
No matter what the answers are to my questions, this predator still needs to be locked up, and you still deserve all the help the system can offer, and of course you deserve safety and the opportunity to live freely in our country.
Darling I am so sorry. This is completely unacceptable. The police are a joke when it comes to assault and rape; my perpetrator still walks free and lives a normal life with his family. None are the wiser. Women are unfortunately often not taken seriously by police in cases like this.
I don’t have any specific advice other than contacting Danner, they have extensive knowledge when it comes to dealing with domestic violence (which is part of what you’re subjected to). Also, try to appeal the police decision, so the general attorney will look at the case.
Mostly, I just wanted to send you a hug. I am so sorry. I feel like hospital staff should have questioned you about your injuries too – with bleeding, they need to ask how that happened, and it should be in a room away from the man, so you aren’t afraid to tell the truth. I 100% understand being too scared to say anything to complete strangers when you’re still in shock, especially if he’s right there still!
I am so sorry. You were failed by the police, hospital staff and most of all that piece of shit sub-human mouth-breather. You’re allowed to be angry. I’m sending you all the healing I can. This doesn’t define you – it only defines him. It says nothing about you or your worth, this only reflects back on him! Always remember that. It really helped me heal to learn how to let go of the guilt and shame we place on ourselves, and remember that this ONLY defines him. Not you. You are still you, you are whole and you have worth. He, on the other hand, is a sub-human rapist. Karma will come for him.
I would just like to add a bit important procedural detail to what has already been stated in this thread.
Normally, a complaint must be submitted within four weeks of receiving notification of the decision. Otherwise, the right to appeal the police decision will lapse.
Therefore please seek legal aid, for instance at women’s refuge organisations like Danner or legal aid organisations like the Copenhagen Legal Aid or RUSK well in advance of the time bar.
I am sorry to hear about your situation and wish you the best of luck.