Autistic boy ‘wanted to show mum trains’ before she smothered him, court told

>”He does not fit in the world and where he doesn’t fit I don’t either.”

Speaking as an autistic adult who grew up different from all my “peers”, this news story pains me to read, but I can also see where the mother was coming from.

A tragic event, and I feel so desperate sorry for the whole family.

That poor child and that poor mother. Support for mother’s in this country is appalling. She should have been cared for after her first threat on her own life. She didn’t fail as a mother, we failed as a society.

Edit to add: I’ve been threatened with reporting to social services for having a degree of sympathy for a woman with mental health issues who did something unspeakable awful to her poor, poor child after she was abandoned by the NHS. Says it all about support for mothers really.

“He [Lincoln] does not fit in the world and where he doesn’t fit I don’t either.”

He had earlier told the jury it appeared “the challenges of caring for an autistic child had caused the defendant to become depressed and she chose to murder her child”.

That was a sad read.

She was diagnosed with depression, clearly stressed & heard some voices that told her she needed to kill her child & herself. Though, a psychiatrist did not feel her symptoms met the threshold for psychosis. The voices were most likely intrusive but her own.

She’s claiming manslaughter on grounds of diminished responsibility. I’m not sure how I feel about this, without more information on the case.

What struck me as strange was how she labelled her child as a burden, effectively assigning blame for her own misery onto him. This, to me, feels egocentric & perhaps even slightly opportunistic because it serves as a strategy to absolve her from the responsibility of introspection & managing her own illness.

I would query whether she is projecting an image onto him, that he is a burden when, in fact, that’s a reflection of how she herself feels.

The reality of the situation is she killed her child, and we do not know what life he could have had.

The picture and the the fact the mother killed him was bad enough, my dude. There was no need for me to see the rest of that headline. Goddamnit.

I saw this on r/All. I’m a Brit in Asia for 20 yrs and as I read this awful headline I knew before looking that this was the UK. I’m tempted to block this depressing sub from my feed. I miss the UK I remember but have no desire to return.

There’s no excuse for this. However:

‘On the day she killed her son, she called 999 to say she was about to take an overdose, but was told by the call handler to wait with a friend as it may be 10 hours before an ambulance turned up.’

Underfunding of the NHS played a role in this disaster. If someone had been sent out to her, this could have ended differently.

How come I’m not allowed to watch porn but headlines like this are fine?

I cannot stress enough how much people need to think of the high chances of having a child show autistic traits later in life, and ESPECIALLY being a single parent as the chances of couples separating increase by 50 fucking %

Kids should NOT be had to have a cute baby for a minute. That baby grows in no time and becomes more and MORE complex, for crying out loud

And no, you WON’T just “figure it out”. If you’re a struggling adult, what the F makes you think you’re gonna pull off raising a healthy HUMAN BEING. Get your shit together first and stop having kids to feel like you’ve accomplished something for social status, jesus christ

This is awful, and shows the nadir that is mental health services. I have three autistic teenagers, one of whom, ( the middle child),is in and out of sectioning over the past two years. My wife and I are completely wiped out from trying to support them, but there’s only so much we can do. Our eldest leaves school next year, and won’t do anything, and won’t seek therapy outside of school. Over the next five years, he’s likely to lose his grandparents to old age, his elderly dog, and he’s losing his only safe space outside of home. We are terrified about what the next few years are going to be, any small part of hope we have is dwindling away rapidly. The lack of support outside of his school is astonishing. We are so tired, it’s aged us horribly, and all we are trying to do is find a place for kids in this world.

This made me genuinely sad, I’m a father to a 4 year old and I love nothing better than hearing him ask me to show me something he wants to see with me.

🙁

All we hear in this country is about ‘the boats’ and anti immigrant far right shit. All media energy on everything but wealth tax assets. This story is one of many failures to fund public services.

Horrible country we are right now. Enough for Royal banquets and allowing billionaires to become trillionaires using our citizens and land to create for these wealthy types the money but no lets attack the poor, disabled and immigrants.

Joke.