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An art history major has dreamed of visiting Italy for years, and with graduation on the horizon, it’s starting to become a reality
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However, the Reddit user doesn’t want their husband to come, since he often makes “immature” comments about art
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So, they turned to Reddit to ask for advice on how to handle the situation
Planning vacations can get tricky when people have different ideas of the perfect itinerary.
One Reddit user, an “art history and anthropology major,” has been “planning a tour of Italy for years” following graduation — but fears their partner won’t be able to appreciate all the places they want to go.
“I plan to go see my favourite historical sites and pieces of artwork. Most of the artwork I am interested in is renaissance art, and features a lot of naked women,” they wrote in a recent post. “Only, when I try to discuss art with him he looks at the paintings and women and says all he sees are ‘fat chicks.’ “
The poster noted that their partner’s comments often ruin the experience.
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“It is really deflating to love a piece of art, and feel deeply about it, and to explain that to someone who is laughing and basically making fun of it,” they wrote.
Although their husband wants to make it a “couples trip” to celebrate the poster’s significant achievement, they’re left wondering if it would be better as a solo trip, given their differing tastes.
“I could visit my art in peace and not have to explain the context and try and ‘defend’ everything I like,” they explained.
However, when they brought it up with their husband, he got “upset.”
“I have tried to explain to him that his reactions about the art are immature and kind of makes me not even want to discuss the art with him and he got mad and said I was calling him unsophisticated and stupid when really he just doesn’t appreciate art,” they continued.
“I know he would rush me through the museums and there are some pieces of artwork that I know I will want to linger with for a while. He won’t understand and will force me to leave before I’m ready.”
So, they turned to Reddit to ask if they would be in the wrong for going on the trip alone — and the vast majority of commenters took their side.
“Say sure he can come, and what is he planning on doing while you’re visiting galleries and museums?” one user wrote. “Because if he really wants to be part of a trip that celebrates you finishing your studies, he should respect you enough to let you do that.”
“I’ve visited art museums in Italy. It’s a religious experience. Do not let this man ruin it for you,” another added.
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