had my last first date of this year this past weekend and thought these numbers might be interesting. my first dates are always either coffee or ice cream and i probably pay for myself about 65-70% of the time. second dates are always a meal and i pay for myself about 45% of the time. if he pays for the meal and we get dessert after, i pay for dessert
i initiate ~65% of first dates and initiate ~75% of rejections with lack of banter and mismatch in long-term plans being the most common rejection reasons. maybe 60% respond back well, another 20% don’t respond at all, and the rest say that they also didn’t see it working out
data source was me tracking it manually by hand and i used sankeymatic for the chart
feldhammer on
Damn at first I thought it was 41 matches, which I feel would be a lot for a dude. But that’s a lot of actual DATES!!
why_doineedausername on
Where did you find 41 men to go on dates with and what size city do you live in
LawyerBrasileiro on
Why did the fifth date go wrong? I was already imagining you two married with children.
Few_Researcher7078 on
Looks exhausting. No idea how are you all doing it
HegemonNYC on
You went in 41 first dates? Flabbergasting. I’ve had a dozen casual relationships, 3 serious gfs, a wife of 15 years, and there is no way I’ve gone on 41 first dates in my lifetime.
Can I ask why?
TheFinestPotatoes on
What’s wrong with all the guys you’re dating?
Are you rejecting them or are they rejecting you?
Diggumdum on
Lmao meanwhile I can’t even get 41 people to respond back.
SsooooOriginal on
There are how many weeks in a year?
Where yall find the energy?
Never understood people that play the field with multiple dates in a week, maybe I’m just slow but that’s a lot to keep up with.
EVOSexyBeast on
Can you do a
1. First date
2. I rejected, they rejected, second date
3. I rejected, they rejected, third date
4. I rejected, they rejected, fourth date
etc…
AdamPedAnt on
Before we were married, my wife was given this advice that changed my life: Lower your standards.
STYL3D on
42nd times the charm? I’ve only gotten 2 dates this year so I’m not thrilled about these stats lol
Caramel_Twist on
As a woman (31F) who has just recently started being single again, this data is amazing!
I am apprehensive on what the world of dating is like for 30 + year olds, so it’s lovely to see some data on lived experience.
CesQ89 on
Almost one date a week. Some men are lucky to get 2 a year lol
Do you only talk on the app for a a day or two before deciding to meet up?
michigan_matt on
At what point are you on a first name basis with the coffee and ice cream shop workers?
GrumpyFeloPR on
what happend to the 5th date?
CeterumCenseo85 on
58 dates in a year is rough. Is there something specific that you feel they just didn’t meet your standards on? Only speaking of the ones you rejected, ofc.
AutomagicallyAwesome on
I’m fascinated that you could go on 41 first dates and never get past the “we’ve been on a couple of dates” phase. Are you even looking for a relationship, or do you just like meeting people?
Hendo52 on
You only need to win once
DMBEst91 on
41 dates, sounds exhausting
BongLeach562 on
You went on 41+ dates in 1 year? I think you average more than 1 per week if you take into account 2nd, 3rd, etc dates.
ausmomo on
I think this graph could be improved by always having the bottom branch be the “no more dates” branch. It would add consistency to the graphic.
hops_on_hops on
This is really neat. Good for you. Dating is about getting out there. If you want to meet the right one for you, you’re going to have to meet a lot of the wrong ones first.
The responses from all the people who apparently want a partner, but are opposed to going on dates are… Perplexing.
AndreBerg on
Meanwhile usual redditor, 41 swipes, 1 match, no answer
SnoutInTheDark on
May i ask if you have any “non negotiables” in your vetting process (this would be pre-first date)? Such as religion, politics, etc?
markusbrainus on
Love how the male equivalent of this is 500+ match requests and maybe 2-3 dates all year. OP is taking weekly first dates.
Thanks for sharing the data!
SignalNNoise on
you need to break up your first date and add pre-date elements like how long you talked on the phone and did you connect in first few minutes of meeting.
crashcap on
Data is beautiful. Comments kinda suck
Due_Masterpiece_3601 on
If this was a guy I’d be blown away and say congrats
IlliterateJedi on
You should split the “no X date” into other person not interested vs you not being interested vs mutual disinterest.
Tutu2017 on
41?! That’s like one new date every week. That’s why she’s not getting a lot of second dates or third- she’s too busy having first dates with new guys
Ragnarotico on
41 first dates in a year. That’s awesome.
The typical male using dating apps would be lucky to go on 4 first dates in a year.
FYI the statistics vary on how many matches you need to actually get a date but the average seems to be 50ish so that means if that number holds true this woman has had over 2,000 matches this year.
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had my last first date of this year this past weekend and thought these numbers might be interesting. my first dates are always either coffee or ice cream and i probably pay for myself about 65-70% of the time. second dates are always a meal and i pay for myself about 45% of the time. if he pays for the meal and we get dessert after, i pay for dessert
i initiate ~65% of first dates and initiate ~75% of rejections with lack of banter and mismatch in long-term plans being the most common rejection reasons. maybe 60% respond back well, another 20% don’t respond at all, and the rest say that they also didn’t see it working out
data source was me tracking it manually by hand and i used sankeymatic for the chart
Damn at first I thought it was 41 matches, which I feel would be a lot for a dude. But that’s a lot of actual DATES!!
Where did you find 41 men to go on dates with and what size city do you live in
Why did the fifth date go wrong? I was already imagining you two married with children.
Looks exhausting. No idea how are you all doing it
You went in 41 first dates? Flabbergasting. I’ve had a dozen casual relationships, 3 serious gfs, a wife of 15 years, and there is no way I’ve gone on 41 first dates in my lifetime.
Can I ask why?
What’s wrong with all the guys you’re dating?
Are you rejecting them or are they rejecting you?
Lmao meanwhile I can’t even get 41 people to respond back.
There are how many weeks in a year?
Where yall find the energy?
Never understood people that play the field with multiple dates in a week, maybe I’m just slow but that’s a lot to keep up with.
Can you do a
1. First date
2. I rejected, they rejected, second date
3. I rejected, they rejected, third date
4. I rejected, they rejected, fourth date
etc…
Before we were married, my wife was given this advice that changed my life: Lower your standards.
42nd times the charm? I’ve only gotten 2 dates this year so I’m not thrilled about these stats lol
As a woman (31F) who has just recently started being single again, this data is amazing!
I am apprehensive on what the world of dating is like for 30 + year olds, so it’s lovely to see some data on lived experience.
Almost one date a week. Some men are lucky to get 2 a year lol
Do you only talk on the app for a a day or two before deciding to meet up?
At what point are you on a first name basis with the coffee and ice cream shop workers?
what happend to the 5th date?
58 dates in a year is rough. Is there something specific that you feel they just didn’t meet your standards on? Only speaking of the ones you rejected, ofc.
I’m fascinated that you could go on 41 first dates and never get past the “we’ve been on a couple of dates” phase. Are you even looking for a relationship, or do you just like meeting people?
You only need to win once
41 dates, sounds exhausting
You went on 41+ dates in 1 year? I think you average more than 1 per week if you take into account 2nd, 3rd, etc dates.
I think this graph could be improved by always having the bottom branch be the “no more dates” branch. It would add consistency to the graphic.
This is really neat. Good for you. Dating is about getting out there. If you want to meet the right one for you, you’re going to have to meet a lot of the wrong ones first.
The responses from all the people who apparently want a partner, but are opposed to going on dates are… Perplexing.
Meanwhile usual redditor, 41 swipes, 1 match, no answer
May i ask if you have any “non negotiables” in your vetting process (this would be pre-first date)? Such as religion, politics, etc?
Love how the male equivalent of this is 500+ match requests and maybe 2-3 dates all year. OP is taking weekly first dates.
Thanks for sharing the data!
you need to break up your first date and add pre-date elements like how long you talked on the phone and did you connect in first few minutes of meeting.
Data is beautiful. Comments kinda suck
If this was a guy I’d be blown away and say congrats
You should split the “no X date” into other person not interested vs you not being interested vs mutual disinterest.
41?! That’s like one new date every week. That’s why she’s not getting a lot of second dates or third- she’s too busy having first dates with new guys
41 first dates in a year. That’s awesome.
The typical male using dating apps would be lucky to go on 4 first dates in a year.
FYI the statistics vary on how many matches you need to actually get a date but the average seems to be 50ish so that means if that number holds true this woman has had over 2,000 matches this year.
Damn dude that’s a lot of free meals.
This elephant in the room, dating apps.