In one of today’s topics, questions were raised as to whether really there are people in the world who regret having children. The answer is yes, there really are such people. Few in percentage, but they exist and they are also human.
In my opinion, it is the best time to talk about these things, because often such people feel enormous shame and would not admit these things anywhere other than in an anonymous forum or survey. It is also important to distinguish that some regret the circumstances related to having children NOT the child (age, poverty, choice of partner, lack of support structure), some regret the child itself (e.g. a child with special needs).
People who had a child(ren) at a later age, who had better financial capacity and who did not have a child with special needs had the lowest percentage of regret. Also people who had an adequate support structure (eg parents, grandparents, relatives, etc.). Mainly these 4 conditions.
An important nuance is also that at the age of 55+, as a rule, regret decreases, so the result of such studies is also influenced by people’s age.
The percentage varies between approximately 7-13.6%, depending on the country (there is not enough data for each country). The highest number of regrets is in Poland (13.6%).
Sources:
https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/36590-one-twelve-parents-say-they-regret-having-children
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8294566/
If someone wants to listen to a video about the topic, for example see (by the way, the specific person in the video decided to have a baby and is pregnant at the time of filming).
Umbes 10% vanematest kahetseb lapse saamist (ja 90% vanematest ei kahetse)
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Spekuleerin, et tänapäeval on see kahetsusprotsent oluliselt kõrgem kui aastakümneid tagasi. Samuti on tegu sellise nähtusega, kus inimesed sageli – sh anonüümselt – ei taha tunnistada, kui neil peaks tõepoolest kahetsus olema. Kahetseda oma enda lapse saamist tekitab enamik inimestes – ja seda täiesti mõistetavatel põhjustel – tugevalt vastakaid tundeid.
Vanemates inimestes on kahtlemata vähem kahetsust, sest lapse saamine on olnud teadvustatum tegevus ning olemas on nii rahalised vahendid, kogemus kui ka emotsionaalne küpsus, et lapsega toime tulla ja teda väärtustada ka nutustel päevadel. Samuti on vanemas eas lapse saanud inimene oma sarved maha jooksnud ja nooruse nö. vabadust piisaval määral nautinud.
Lapse saamise teeb kindlasti lihtsamaks ja nauditavamaks, kui lapse üleskasvamisest võtavad aktiivselt ja entusiastlikult osa ka vanavanemad ja laiem perevõrk.
Kindlasti on protsent kõrgem nende seas, kes tegid lapse survestamise tõttu, enamjaolt perekonna poolt.
Kuna prg purjus ja ei viitsi lugeda, siis kas statistikas on olemas ka laste vanused? Et noh kas see kahetsus tekib/kaob ajaga