There are stark differences in what Japanese women want in a husband vs western women. In west: 1) Affection, 2) Communication Skills, 3) Sense of Humor. In Japan: 1) Annual Income/Financial Stability, 2) Occupation/Educational Background, 3) Cleanliness/Grooming
https://president.jp/articles/-/114004
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Super reasonable .
Some western women care about annual income as a priority but they are the ones who usually end up alone
Some questions:
1) Are there Japanese girls out there that have more Westernized values? (e.g. Personality > Money / Materialism)
2) I saw a Japanese girl that had a condition / 条件 of 10 Million JPY per year.
Where does the 10M / year figure come from?
And what is the basis / computation for it?
Or is it just some random number being thrown out?
I mean Japan is a basically a third world country so it makes sense. They like to act like they’re better than SEA or china but they’re really not.
Japanese Men have similar standards for “Wife Material” and Japanese Spouses (M & F) casually cheat on the same scale that old white dudes “casually drink” while playing golf.
This is clearly bollocks.
My wife wanted Colin Firth*, but I was actually available.
*Antonio Banderas was also an option, but I can’t speak Spanish.
結婚相手に求める条件トップ5
① 愛情・フィーリング
② コミュニケーション能力
③ ユーモア・一緒に楽しめるか
④ 自立しているか
⑤ 外見の魅力
What nonsense is that? I struggle to believe that foreign women care so little about their partner’s financial status. This is like when my grandmother asked me what type of woman is my type and I answer quiet, good cook and kind when I actually want to say busty health club girl in a JK uniform.
So they’re gold diggers ? Okay
Western women require the latter 3 to match on the apps, then require the former 3 once the relationship is sealed. All valid things to seek in a partner anyway.
Tbf #1 and #3 from the Japanese are taken for granted and baked into the Western calculus already.
Actually #2 as well, but people are ready to overlook occupation/education if their net worth or income can compensate that.
I think they interpret the question differently. Each side assumes the other three choices are a given, so they need to rank the rest.
That chart is not working on my phone at all, is the one axis age? Because age is extremely important for this sort of thing. I’m assuming it’s looking at women who are dating in the same way in both countries, as well….Their own incomes/wealth would also need to be considered….
I was in Japan in the 2010s, so things may have changed, but this does surprise me. When I went on dates or was in relationships, it was actually the norm for the girl to pay her share, more than it was in the US (at least in my area).
You can swap in any of the major Asian races (Korean, Chinese, or Japanese) and they all seek those things as the priority first.
Source: Me. Am married to an Asian wife and I am Korean.
We should all hope to meet these basic standards
I want all 6 in a woman as well. But I’ll be lucky if I find 2.
that’s hilarious, because I’m from europe and I swear it’s exactly the opposite.
Women in the west don’t even expect the possibility to pay for a date, meanwhile here in Japan it’s completely normal to split the bill. I even had japanese women pay the dinner for me on our date.
Maybe it’s just me being a European in Tokyo but women here are far more interested in me as a person here than over in Europe. In Europe they’re mostly interested in what benefits they can expect to get from being with a man. Basically to European women relationships are like a second job, but the job comes with mostly benefits. They can only really have one such job so they try to see where they can find the best low-work high-benefit position.
Meanwhile here in Tokyo women seem to actually look for a mutual partner. I’m in a relationship for roughly 2 weeks now after 2 months dating my current girlfriend and women are still overly interested in me everywhere.
From my experience, Japanese women’s care actually less about money than western women’s lol
0 for 6, damn
Me and my friend are high earning women in our 40s and 50s. We are both divorced single moms.
She married a broke Canadian guy … She moved back to Japan a decade ago because she was tired of living in poverty in canada..(he made 600 cad as a pizza delivery phone operator , she made 1500 cad, rent was 1500 cad) and got a good job here in jp
She divorced him only in the last five years (but separated longer before that) . She said now she wants to ” look for a guy who makes more than her ” in her next relationship.
While I understand the sentiment (especially after living on bean sprouts in Canada) this is really unrealistic because the guy who makes more than us are interested in 24 year old childless instagram influencer.. not 50 year old single mom with an autistic teenager
So yeah I do think she will end up alone. But thats better than being with her ex. Being single is not that bad
I think more western women need to consider cleanliness and hygeine too judging by the amount of reddit posts Ive seen. Ive seen one where someone asked if they were the a hole because they asked their boyfriend to start brushing his teeth daily. Another one said that their husband apparently never touches his butt because he was taught that it was weird so he never properly washed it and he smelled.
In West: 1) height 2) affection 3) sense of humor. #ftfy
Western women want all of those things though. The last three are implied requirements from the start.
Happy to say I have all 6 and have been with my Japanese wife for 26 years now.
Cooking is also a highly valued but rare skill, that escapes Japanese men in general.