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    Mum killed disabled son after finding she'd just days to live
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    Mum killed disabled son after finding she’d just days to live

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    1. ImJustARunawaay on

      Well that’s just utterly tragic from start to end.

      Also, when did websites become completely and utterly unusable again – that page is like some kind of 1990s nightmare

    2. NotEntirelyShure on

      The sad thing is that if she knew her son would go into a care home, then I understand. I have seen this before. A single parent who has a terminal diagnosis or sometimes can’t cope, and knows their kid will go into some shitty care home, so they kill their kid as well. With the state of care for disabled people in this country, it’s not an irrational decision:

    3. Minimum-Geologist-58 on

      The looming crisis in the care of disabled adults by elderly parents has been highlighted by various sources for a few years now.

      It’s the cloud on a silver lining, since the late 40s the life expectancy of someone with Down’s syndrome has increased from 12 to 66 and 2/3s of all people with learning disabilities or disabling autism are looked after by parents.

      It’s kind of something we’d struggle to do anything really effective about for the current crisis but it is the kind of thing we can learn from, services should be improved, parents should be encouraged to consider if their instincts to look after disabled adults themselves are correct, because you can’t do it forever – they may be they may not. But all in all, even in an ideal society, it’s tough suboptimal choices all round.

    5. shadowplaywaiting on

      Why is it okay to kill your child if they have a disability? No amount of anxiety over their future warrants murder. Every case like this people don’t seem to ever think that the parent did an evil deed. ‘A loving and caring mother’ would never have killed her child. Full stop. Her son was an adult in this case, but my point still stands. Even the cases where children are murdered people say the same thing.

    6. Humble-Variety-2593 on

      Where I used to live, there was an elderly couple who would walk with their severely autistic son twice a day, every day. I always engaged with them because I wondered how much time they get to spend talking to other people outside of their family unit. Then I got to thinking about what happens to the son when his parents die. They were in their late 70s and he was about 35/40-ish. Where does he end up? Adult care is a time bomb that’s going to hit hard this decade.

    7. AyanaRei on

      The article was a sad read, the mother was failed by the hospital and local authorities. Carers need a lot of support and it sounds like she wasn’t given what she needed. She didn’t see a positive future for her brain injured son. If only there was support to ensure he would live somewhere where he felt safe and comfortable when she was diagnosed.

    9. rbcsky5 on

      It is a tragedy and I totally understand her.

      I saw a very old couple who couldn’t even stand without a stick in metro with a middle aged son that jumping up and down happily for a school bag with my little pony. And they couldn’t sit coz they were offered and the mom said “he won’t sit and will run everywhere”

      It is their best interest to let go of him to some professional but they also think no one can take care of him better than themselves. They take care him with unconditional love.

      IF I am ever be a parents of them, I would either abortion or do the same before I die as a responsible personal.

    10. Celestial__Peach on

      “Mrs Nunn, 67, was the appointed carer for her son, who had suffered a life-changing accident when he was 11 and sustained a serious brain injury. The review described Mrs Nunn as a “loving and caring” mother, and said they were part of a close-knit and supportive family. She had been diagnosed with stage three cancer in July 2021 and a month later was told it was terminal

      In the October, she was admitted to A&E and was told the lung cancer had spread to her brain, spine, and pelvis. Palliative care was being set up and arranged at home for her final days. The agencies working with the family said she was more concerned about how her son would cope without her as her health deteriorated. However it was also noted there had been nothing to indicate her intention to take her own life and kill her son.

      On October 24, two days after she was discharged from hospital, Cleveland Police was called to her home by her sister. Mrs Nunn’s husband Paul had died of cancer in October 2019 and his loved ones passed away on the anniversary of his death. Following the tragedy, the DHR was commissioned by the Middlesbrough Community Safety Partnership and carried out by an independent chair. The report has now been published on Middlesbrough Council’s website, although the names of the mother and son were changed to “June and John”.

      i feel so deeply for them both

    12. ChocolateLeibniz on

      If an animal knows their offspring won’t survive they will kill them to save them hardship. It’s so sad that in a 1st world country a human woman didn’t have a system she could trust to look after her son in the event of her death. I know my opinion may be unpopular but this is a case for the state and not to pass judgement on the mother. This was a sad read.

    13. SwooshSwooshJedi on

      For a lot of MPs right now, this is preferable than actually funding decent support and social care. Meanwhile the richest (including pensioners) get endless protections.

    14. ConnectPreference166 on

      What a sad situation for the family. We need better care and disability services in the UK. Feel sorry that she felt this was their only way to find peace.

    15. Playful_Flower5063 on

      I don’t blame her, I could see myself doing the same thing.

      They want to find out if there was any further emotional support that they could have offered to stop this from happening?

      Well what they need to do is look at the services they offer, realise how hard it is to claim disability benefits, how closely guarded every fucking resource is, and realise that when she died this disabled chap would have not a single person to advocate for him or to help him navigate the system that is designed at every step to discourage, delay and deny.

      It’s not mental health support she needed, she needed for the systemic destruction of social care over the last 15 years not to have happened.

    16. Boggyprostate on

      FFS it’s about a Mother who had to take her sons life and hers because she couldn’t trust this country to look after her son but the readers on here are more distressed over the pop up ads! Fuck my life!

    17. Mjukplister on

      I don’t blame her . May she and him rest in peace eternal 🙏 no one would have cared for him as well as her . Tragic and I understand why she did it

    19. Sweet-Bass-1926 on

      If the son had no one else he may have even asked her to do this, it may have been more of a suicide pact thing? Very very sad all around.

    20. crumpetsandchai on

      What a sad read.

      My husband’s 68 year old mother is the primary carer of his brother who is 37 and is the far end of the autistic spectrum. Even though in the event of her passing, he will be taken care of but because he’s been her number one priority for 37 years so its still something she’s constantly anxious about more than her own health.

      I don’t blame her – she had to stay in the hospital recently for a few days unexpectedly and he really struggled and got emotionally aggressive without her even-though he had his siblings and usual carers around to take care of him

    22. Poptastrix on

      This is what your lives are worth to your governments and other people in your society who function without empathy.

    23. NeilPatrickWarburton on

      gentle reminder that you can unfollow this sub (or block it with various extensions like sink-it). 

      this sub can not good for anyone’s mental health.