Would be fun to see this broken up, per app. From this, I can’t see, for example, what apps the dates, casual relationships or log-distance relationships came from. Circular/pie sankey diagram? 😅
Eipa on
There is an error. You had a date with your relationships as well, didn’t you?
My own spin on the author’s chart about his experiences dating
CmdrMcLane on
Sigh…pretty much matches my experience as someone who is relatively new to the apps 3 years after a 12 year marriage.
It takes so much time to match, to then set up dates and 99% of first dates don’t lead anywhere. Been on Bumble and Hinge for six months or so and am sooo over it.Â
How did you last 2.5 years OP?!
Also, nice graphic!
Unconformist85 on
29 started, 29 ended.
Nothing is created nothing is lost.
Antoine Lavoisier
mailwasnotforwarded on
Is this normal? To be 41 and have 29 relationships? I don’t even have half that and I am younger than him.
elemntz on
I think online dating is just fundamentally broken now. You haven’t included the amount of swipes you made in order to get your matches, and this for me always shows how much of a statistical anomaly it is to find that person.
Harkania on
Probably better than most of us flatliners xD
Tsudaar on
Would be better as a parallel coordinate graph
ahditeacha on
Summary, you had 2 long-distance gfs but they found out you were ridin dirty and both dumped you. Flew too close to the sun!
Hot_is_Cold on
What kind of chart is this?
headies1 on
This is… sad. Maybe the real insight from this data is that online dating apps are an awful way to meet people.
jabbadatoddla on
If scams and hookers were on this chart it would be like one of those real-size comparisons between the Sun and Earth. I also wonder what country/region this was and what the swipe criteria was. I’m at I think eleventy billion swipes and 2 dates in 15 years, both were mentally ill.
boot2skull on
Does this chart mean from those apps you met 29 people, or does it mean you contacted 29 people and met them all? Because meeting everyone you communicated with would be a success story on its own, but I think the meaning is these 29 people you met and these are the apps you met them through. Am I correct?
sm753 on
40M…I met a lot more people off of Hinge.
I’ve recently concluded there’s really nobody worth meeting on these apps. I think it’s the paradox of choice…I’m tired of being treated as interchangeable and meeting women who think they can just keep trading up indefinitely.
severemc on
You analyze your dating patterns like this and wonder why you are still dating.
swizznastic on
Data can only show one side of the multidimensional tetrahedron of life. How were the 8 noncasual relationships OP? Did you like them? Did you grow?
PiratesSayARRR on
This is just awful data presentation with inconsistent colors and no reason to even split your first three apps – as they flow through to nothing later
![[OC] My [41M] on/off ~2.5-year dating journey with people I met on OLD apps](https://www.byteseu.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/6lp0ncopy4lf1-1536x768.jpeg "[OC] My [41M] on/off ~2.5-year dating journey with people I met on OLD apps")
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what is this graph called?
Would be fun to see this broken up, per app. From this, I can’t see, for example, what apps the dates, casual relationships or log-distance relationships came from. Circular/pie sankey diagram? 😅
There is an error. You had a date with your relationships as well, didn’t you?
https://preview.redd.it/queoizik05lf1.png?width=280&format=png&auto=webp&s=bf4b399d5be1fa2fbcfb53b6923188150a0e5796
My own spin on the author’s chart about his experiences dating
Sigh…pretty much matches my experience as someone who is relatively new to the apps 3 years after a 12 year marriage.
It takes so much time to match, to then set up dates and 99% of first dates don’t lead anywhere. Been on Bumble and Hinge for six months or so and am sooo over it.Â
How did you last 2.5 years OP?!
Also, nice graphic!
29 started, 29 ended.
Nothing is created nothing is lost.
Antoine Lavoisier
Is this normal? To be 41 and have 29 relationships? I don’t even have half that and I am younger than him.
I think online dating is just fundamentally broken now. You haven’t included the amount of swipes you made in order to get your matches, and this for me always shows how much of a statistical anomaly it is to find that person.
Probably better than most of us flatliners xD
Would be better as a parallel coordinate graph
Summary, you had 2 long-distance gfs but they found out you were ridin dirty and both dumped you. Flew too close to the sun!
What kind of chart is this?
This is… sad. Maybe the real insight from this data is that online dating apps are an awful way to meet people.
If scams and hookers were on this chart it would be like one of those real-size comparisons between the Sun and Earth. I also wonder what country/region this was and what the swipe criteria was. I’m at I think eleventy billion swipes and 2 dates in 15 years, both were mentally ill.
Does this chart mean from those apps you met 29 people, or does it mean you contacted 29 people and met them all? Because meeting everyone you communicated with would be a success story on its own, but I think the meaning is these 29 people you met and these are the apps you met them through. Am I correct?
40M…I met a lot more people off of Hinge.
I’ve recently concluded there’s really nobody worth meeting on these apps. I think it’s the paradox of choice…I’m tired of being treated as interchangeable and meeting women who think they can just keep trading up indefinitely.
You analyze your dating patterns like this and wonder why you are still dating.
Data can only show one side of the multidimensional tetrahedron of life. How were the 8 noncasual relationships OP? Did you like them? Did you grow?
This is just awful data presentation with inconsistent colors and no reason to even split your first three apps – as they flow through to nothing later