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    Analysis of 2.5 years of texting my boyfriend [OC]

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    2. sirboddingtons on

      The drop off after moving in is so interesting. I guess that sort of “garauntee” at the end of the day and the volume of time you spend together kind of lessens the necessity to text. 

    3. Qurdlo on

      Jeez lol I can’t even imagine exchanging 100 messages a day with my wife, or anyone for that matter. If I send 10 texts in a day that’s a lot. How do people do anything when they are texting so much?

    7. K_RAR_ on

      This is very interesting. I really love seeing how the number of messages ebbs and flows with each stage of the relationship. Like I think most people could pick out the stages with out the notations

    12. Quicksilver7716 on

      I’m just shocked at the sheer number of days with 200+ messages. 

      Who sends upwards of 300 messages to anyone in a day? Do you have jobs?

      You’d be lucky to get 10 messages out of me before I thrown in the towel and call to save my thumbs. 

    14. Halvinz on

      If I have to message someone more than 5 times a day, I would cut them out of my life.

      Good grief! Just pick up the phone and talk.

    15. StrangeAssonance on

      There is no day in my 25 years of marriage where I’ve needed to talk that much to my wife. Before texting, when we were dating we emailed. Maybe 1x a day. We used the phone – I know young people don’t do that anymore, they text. I think I am lucky to get more than 1 text a day from my wife, on average for the last 5 years.

      I’ll be honest, its my generation I think, but I’d have you blocked if you sent me that many messages a day.

    16. BigThunder3000 on

      Well, it’s taken me 10 minutes to scroll back, and I’m only at August, so I give up.

    17. ThrowAway126498 on

      I can’t imagine sending that many messages a week in total to more than one person let alone to a single person. What the hell do y’all be talking about all the damn time? Do you let them know about every time you fart or what?

    19. xMansie on

      This is super cool. How on earth did you manage to filter through all that and make graphs? I’d like to do one of mine and my wife’s.

      Any info would be appreciated.

    20. stovetopmuse on

      The consistency of those states really stands out. I always end up wondering how much of this is driven by access to services versus social isolation versus reporting differences. The age adjustment helps, but it still feels like a reminder that geography matters way more than people like to admit.

    22. Kquinn87 on

      So between 2023-10 and 2024-10 you averaged about 150 messages a day? Considering you had 17.5 hours to text each other throughout the day that’s a message every 7 minutes.

      A message every 7 minutes, for a year! That’s absurd.

    25. Illustrious_Map_3247 on

      I’ve joked with my partner that, through the years, the occurrence of the word “poop” in our texts has increased exponentially. Was 0 for the first few months at least.

      We live together now and often work from home. Most of the time we’re in the same room. Otherwise, there’s a lot of “had to poop” “you poopin?” “Sorry, poopin”.

    27. Longjumping-Bat8347 on

      Slide 1 should also be replicated to “total number of words per day”. Because on slide 1, it looks like average number of messages are coming down over the years. But in slide 4, average words per message is coming up. Don’t know if it’s just same number of words in total per day over the years or not.

    28. Lazy-Daisy-28 on

      This is fantastic and I love it.
      I love the ramp up right before you moved in together presumably working out logistics and squealing with excitement, and then the drop off once it finally happened.

      How did you pull the data?

    29. Craig_E_W on

      this is amazing! I can’t begin to comprehend what this would be like to live/experience, but the fact that you analyzed it, plotted it and have now presented it, I very much appreciate.

    30. SEO_Savant_28 on

      This is honestly adorable and a little too real, the rolling averages and heatmap basically tell the whole relationship story better than words ever could….

    33. niknah on

      I know a lady like this. But she has hearing problems so she understands more when I text her.

    35. djscreeling on

      jfc….I made a point with my ex that 23.96 average texts per day was too many.

      What do you have to say that requires 200 texts?

      My current GF and I haven’t texted anything more than the shopping list in the last 9 days.

    38. mixer2017 on

      Yeah naw, you could be the perfect female for me, but I can tell you right now, if you are sending even half of those 200+ text a day my phone would be in the trash, smashed to bits. I would move to Mexico and buy a burner phone.

      If my wife ever did this to me, this would result in a phone call from me to ask her to knock the shit off. Unless its an emergency, there is zero need to text me that much.