A female foreign lecturer at Chuo University breaks down why Japan has become sexless: “a major factor is women are economically independent, allowing them to say ‘no’ to unwanted sexual acts. Until now they couldn’t refuse men who were economically superior. That power balance is breaking down.”
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Yeah, and all the Japanese dudes I’ve talked to over the years I lived there wanted nothing to do with their wives once they were done having kids. I knew their rationale, but it still made no sense to me. It wasn’t like their spouses weren’t attractive…
Lol blame the women for not wanting to screw men they don’t like that’s so Japan
Somehow I feel like “women can’t get raped anymore” is both incorrect and missing the point. Fertility rates are low across a lot of countries because who’s got the energy for sex after working all day, and who’s got the money to raise a family in this economy?
Japan is in no way a sexless society, not being in a relationship is completely different to not having sex. If anything Japan is fast becoming a sex tourist destination and I’m not talking about paid sex either, casual flings is becoming more and more common over there with women having sex for the thrill with “exotic” foreigners.
Surely that doesn’t explain it all, since it doesn’t explain why these women aren’t finding partners. I think it has more to do with the prevalence of pervert culture that disconnects their man from the reality of real women.
“Men bad” posts are such easy karma bait on this site.
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isn’t USA going this way too with higher prevalence of men not finding partners or still being virgin.
[https://www.newsweek.com/number-virgins-america-hits-record-high-2022266](https://www.newsweek.com/number-virgins-america-hits-record-high-2022266)
[https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2026/sep/7/analysts-see-social-economic-changes-pushing-men-not-marry/?srsltid=AU7gw4X2dxe8C9WJSZzcJjDKj22WRvGvyTdmtwRHAvOENHV7ngALoMU2](https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2026/sep/7/analysts-see-social-economic-changes-pushing-men-not-marry/?srsltid=AU7gw4X2dxe8C9WJSZzcJjDKj22WRvGvyTdmtwRHAvOENHV7ngALoMU2)
I think it’s just combination of stuff that is happening but this is not uniquely a Japanese thing. Even in the west marriage rate is low, and higher rate of singles and lower birth rate.
I think the sex industry and hostess clubs is the issue
Papa-katsu is financial independence!
Japan being sexless is a BS statement, it’s more so Japanese not having time and money to settle down and start a family.
The Japanese I knew from my 20’s are now in their 30’s and while their income has gotten better, their workload has increased a lot.
I don’t see how you are supposed to meet a potential mate and start a family when you work until 22-23 daily, (with some work bleeding into weekends) and need to fill your weekends in advance to make sure you are staying in touch with friends and family.
Japan isn’t sexless but its marriages are. Male partners don’t help with parenting or housework, roles change from partner to parent after kids and the work/life balance is trash. I also don’t know of a single marriage here where one or both partners haven’t cheated.
I don’t see anything here that’s particularly unique?
For the singles, they’re just broke, aren’t they?
For the married ones. Well, that’s just what being married is. Priorities change once the kids arrive.
Besides, how come they’re only measuring this common phenomenon in weeks? Years would be more appropriate.
Much of what she is saying sounds like a veiled call for help. And she fails to mention (well it isn’t mentioned in the article) that the phenomenon of sexless couples and singles is becoming an issue everywhere. Japan isn’t special in that regard. Want to know the biggest reason for a fall in people having sex? Living in a highly urbanised society, with its weak community support and ties, where people can easily go through the day without having to say a single word to anyone in person. And with the rise of robots and “AI”, expect it to just get worse. You can thank the mega corporations for all this.
I work in the fuzoku industry, and can confirm that underneath the surface Japan is far from sexless. Simply, women can make an absolute killing in fuzoku (look up Rurutan), love their pay, and use it to enjoy their lives as they please without being tied down by a man and child.
The new trend now is ladies who make money working in a shop are now making their own shops as they get older, funneling their experience and safety net to younger ambitious ladies. As legally operating services, they are significantly safer and the ladies have full liberty to do as they please as independent contractors…hell they even pay their taxes with their earnings.
Despite what the government says about crackdowns the business has boomed with international tourism now coming into effect Japan will become even more *ahem* “sexless”—as love hotels running out of space is merely a coincidence.
If Japan wants to improve conditions for procreation, they need to incentivize a pregnancy and marriage for women—specifically only women. Otherwise, we will all sit around here theorizing on things on the surface.
Leave it to a foreign professor to come up with the stupidest take on an issue about sex
So, given the option, most girls aren’t interested in banging?
I see men in comments can get it that a lot of women prefer to stay alone and enjoy their lives simply because they CAN. Thank goodness, now we get salary for work we do, so yeah. You guys still see a woman as an object/your mom/your servant – a function, not a person. Get some emotional intelligence. Having a penis or a wallet isn’t enough anymore.
It’s this plus the fact that men don’t contribute equally to housework and childcare. Why partner with someone who is going to make your life harder if you don’t financially need to?
Also some wives don’t like their husbands. The gossip you’ll hear with moms talking
I noticed a lot of Japanese women with Indian guys this summer
This isn’t just a Japan problem, it’s a global problem.
Patriarchy took away the power and status of the female body to create and nurture the next generation of human beings. The body and the blood of the female body in creating life has been spiritually transferred to a Father and Son in the most dominant global religion. The female body is legislated and controlled around the world. The female body is punished economically through poor maternal leave and career progress. There is no power and status given to motherhood, so why the fuck would a person with a female body want to do it?
Signed, a happily married woman to a man who understands that, and with whom she has plans to have boatloads of kids with.
The same issues that plague the west are the cause of gaijin men as well.
So, basically, hipergamy.
Women are making more money, therefore, there are less men that make more money than them, which means a smaller pool of attractive man.
As they say, women are for business.
Hilarious BS with backward logic.
日本では母娘の密着が非常に強く、旦那は子供が生まれた時点で、娘にポジションを取って替わられます。
旦那はATMとして家庭を支え、娘は母の需要を満たそうとし、いずれはメンヘラとなって毒親を批難するようになります。
おそらくは自由恋愛という文化を輸入したものの、恋愛の過程で人としてどう成熟するかという点に着目するより、いわゆる「ロマンティック・ラブ・イデオロギー」に囚われてしまうのでしょう
一人の人間としての自立やパートナーシップの在り方を成熟させる前に子を産んでしまうため、出産前後でパートナーとの関係が変容してしまうのです。
All this is BS noise around the central problem: It’s way too expensive to start a family, own a home and they work insane hours. Everything else is just noise.
That’s why there is a breakdown of relationships. Same exact thing is happening in Korea.
Couples have sex but just not with the significant other.
So the lecturer is saying that Japanese women naturally don’t like sex? Sounds like absolute bullshit to me.