Being married triples the risk of obesity in men
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/being-married-triples-this-health-risk-for-men-b2713838.html
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Being married triples the risk of obesity in men
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/being-married-triples-this-health-risk-for-men-b2713838.html
Posted by tylerthe-theatre
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Married people just have a lot more on their plate.
I think this can happen just being in a relationship if you don’t keep yourself and your partner accountable
Wonder how much is hormonal? male testosterone levels drop quite significantly after marriage and especially parenthood (guess there was some evolutionary benefit not to continue being a test fueled randy sod after mating and stick around to look after the offspring) . You only have to see the physique and body fat changes when males go on TRT to see what an effect it has even in ‘natty’ dose ranges.
Married people more likely to have kids, which leaves a lot less time for exercise and healthy food prep.
Not quite! It’s lads who let it all go AFTER marriage that are the problem. Marriage isn’t the problem.
In **Polish** men.
All those pierogis have to go somewhere!
Jokes on you am fat and am not even married, am beating the odds!
It’s mainly because you do become less active. Which is not helped by stress, and sleep deprivation.
Leftovers.
That’s what it is.
Wife and kids leaving good food behind and wasting money.
Has to be eaten. If they’re not going to eat it, I am.
I wonder if it was corrected for age.
Unrelated – I know when I was single I did a lot for exercisey stuff. Massive hikes, bike rides etc.
Could the independent at least pretend to hide their attempts to destroy the family?
We’re going to find literally any reason the people of this country are becoming fatter other than they can’t stop compulsively shovelling food into their gullets.
I think we both gained weight after moving to a stable relationship. But that also came with healthier meals.
We’re both aware we need to get better with a routine of exercise though.
Noone seems to be mentioning the obvious. Getting a staying fit are often motivated by wanting to be desirable to a potential partner.
When you have one you don’t feel the need quite as much. Lots of reasons but I’d say that’s the biggest to most men I know.
I’m married to the kebab shop, we see each other every Friday.
Reads like men stop putting effort into looking good after marriage but women don’t.
Sadly no one will truly talk about some of the unintended effects. It happens to both sides, tho for men I’d say some big reasons is unintentionally the love of their wives. Your loving wife wants to spend more time with you, so you’ll see you get less time alone, less time working out and doing your own thing, and then more time working to provide. The best way to combat is to try to work out together
Less need to compete with other men in terms of attractiveness, probably related to this married men, and men in relationships full stop, tend to experience a drop in testosterone which tends to correlate with increased body fat. I imagine that married men tend to be older than unmarried men too, which likely contributes.
**The Government**: We are looking at a bill which will ban marriage forever, and keep Britain healthy.
The risk? You can’t catch it.
“Triples the allure of obesity” works much better
I call it engagement arse. Once you’ve got a partner there’s a tendency to relax.
Not a bad thing mind p
My old routine when I was single/living alone:
Wake up, go to work, go to the gym on the way home or workout at home. Eat tea, chill and go to sleep. On a weekend I’d go play golf for hours or some other sport/activity.
Now I’m married with a kid:
Wake up, sort the baby out and take her to nursery. Rush a coffee and start work. Get home and on the way pick the baby up. Put together a tea, then occupy said baby until they go to sleep. It’s now late evening and I’m knackered so just chill / sleep. On a weekend I may get to go do something for a few hours, but also need to occupy said child. When I have downtime all I want to do is relax or play some games / garden. Gym is cancelled as I don’t have time and workout station at home is now a child’s play area.
I gone from a six pack to a BMI of 32.
People in long term relationships put weight on, more at 10
It’s literally the woman’s fault lol she always wanting me to eat and then keeps asking if I want something else to eat..it’s like ..I love you but for the love of God please stop asking me if I want something everyone she’s goes into the kitchen..like it makes me feel bad when I get annoyed with it and sometimes I just say sure.yeah what ever you’re having ..doesn’t help that I’ve been suffering with athritus recently and been of work for a month due to pain
I admit, I’ve cooked too well for my husband, and there has been some waistline expansion.
Pivoted to unversal salad now, in combination with twice daily brisk walks (we haven’t the money for the gym), to see if we can’t get it under control.
Good cooking is an expression of love. But you can love too much.
To be fair, my aunt and uncle have been engaged since Christmas 2020 and they’ve gained significant weight since moving in together
To me this reflects that men are more likely to stop caring and take their partner for granted. This links to a main reason women file for divorce is because the men dont listen or invest into themself and the relationship once they get settled, walkaway wife syndrome.
I also think women care more about what other people, especially other women think about them. So they will push themselves to look better and come across better to strangers or people in their social circles.
I wonder if this is the sma efkr both men and women.
Another reason this may be is because men get lazy and less concerned about their appearance once they feel they’re in a marriage secured relationship. The thought of having to look for another partner goes down, hence no need to look as attractive to attract a partner.
Source: observations in my family and work colleagues.
These men don’t have kids and don’t have less time on their hands. In 3 of the family cases, the women do most of the chores around the house whilst the bloke just sits on his ass on the sofa.
Everyone being holistic in their responses.
I think it’s simple. I wonder how married vs long term live-in girlfriends accounts compares. I wonder because I reckon the main cause of husbands gaining weight is them letting go as they are no longer trying to attract a partner. This is a common cause of breakdowns in relationship via the loss of physical attraction when one or both parties stop caring about their appearance.
Married men are like pets. Abused pets. Mostly they do everything for the women for the hope of some fun times on Valentines Day, Christmas & their Birthday. Very sad.
Never seen a happy married man with kids out in public ever.
Some married men just think that’s it and don’t need to keep up possblibly
Every meal is a meal in a family. There’s none of that; “I’m not that hungry I’ll just have a snack” shenanigans anymore. So you’re jumping from like 200 calories to 1,000 each time that happens.
If she’s hungry, you eat. If you’re hungry, she eats. You both start eating for two and then are both bewildered why you’re twice the size.
If you pay attention to how many meals single people skip in favour of a snack or nothing you realize that “three square meals every day” is a deranged diet, probably a leftover from less sedentary times. That’s a “I’m really hungry today” amount of food, not a norm.
If you manage to sync up your snacking and eating it can work out, but realistically most peoples metabolism is all over the place so while you might *occasionally* both sync up and be like “Neither of us are very hungry, let’s just have a snack” that’s going to be the exception, not the rule. One of you will be hungry and so, well, fuck it, time to eat a full meal.
This dynamic also isn’t helped by one of the couple usually being the cook, since we find it weird and off-putting to eat a meal someone has cooked while they opt for a snack as they “Aren’t hungry”, and they find it weird and off-putting not to offer a meal when they’re cooking one for themselves.
(And, for reasons, we agree to eat that meal because “Well they are hungry, so I should eat” rather than “It’s okay, cook for yourself, i’m fine” because then we’re both stuck in the “After you, no I insist, after you” loop where they say “Oh I can cook later when you’re hungry” and we say “Oh no I could eat now since you’re hungry now!”).
TL;DR, we turn fat because we’re socially awkward with our romantic partners and care about their wellbeing in a stupid way that harms us both, and come from a culture where our understanding of what a meal is was dictated by people who performed manual labour for 12 hours a day.
I do find it a lot harder to sort my diet out when cooking for 2 and I’m not entirely sure why. Shes a bit fussy but it’s probably something my end.
I can confirm, married almost 18 years and I’m about 5 stoner heavier in that time but getting older also has an impact on that
Getting married increases depression and one then eats to try and feel happy as all other enjoyments have been taken away by she who must be obeyed. Getting married is a very bad idea.
I can see the tag line now, Being Married, is bad for your health
When I was married, I eventually realised that the amount of chocolate I was eating was proportional to my wifes shouting, and the amount I was eating as I went to meet her anyplace. I realised I was comfort eating.
I’m divorced now. I have a healthier enjoyment of food.
Married people tend to be older nowadays, and less interested in 1. Impressing random strangers with their physique. Same as 1, but they already have their missus and also enjoy food. 3. Fully relaxing into the Dadfood diet. 4. Embracing the Dadbod. 🧍
Every bloke I have ever known has got fatter once in a relationship and even fatter still during and after the kids are born.
You can work it off easily – all it takes is 20minutes a day of really intense excercise – most people can’t hack it. I’m not talking about a jog. Gassing it up and down your stairs, and a full body owrk out with all the usuals, pushups, situps, pullups, burpess, planks, squats, etc etc. You need to be collpase tired after the 20. If you aren’t you didn’t go hard enough, so over time more reps, faster faster faster.
20 minutes a day. About the same time you spend on the crapper.
its not like i need to impress women anymore, the ball and chain has made the decison neither of us need sex ever again.