‘He strangled me without asking’ – experts say choking during sex now normal for many
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c62zwy0nex0o
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‘He strangled me without asking’ – experts say choking during sex now normal for many
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c62zwy0nex0o
Posted by West_Many4674
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Learn boundaries.
Also learn to respect another human being.
What’s good to you, may not be good to them.
If you’re gonna choke anything.. choke your chicken.
(Your penis)
Huh. I’ve read the article and it seems to make the point that this is a thing that is only done by men to women, and its all because of porn.
All my last few gfs have done this to me unprompted.
Maybe I just have a ‘type’ tho haha
I’m the last person to claim to have healthy boundaries but even I can’t understand how a vast number of people fail to explore this in a somewhat reasonable fashion.
I wouldn’t dream of full choking someone without proper discussion of the topic. On the other hand you get some people who completely overreact when you even suggest anything like control games.
Online porn is rapidly changing the sexual tastes and preferences of young people
My god am I glad to have skated through a few years earlier. How many teenagers are out there feeling nervous that they’re expected to lick someone’s actual asshole
Let alone getting strangled, slapped, it’s just kind of gross from this vanilla perspective
Dad’s need to talk to sons about what being a good man means once you’re behind closed doors and having sex
> “He was on top of me – we were kissing and having sex, then suddenly he put his forearm on my neck and pressed hard with his full weight. I just froze.”
Even if it were consensual that is an incredibly stupid thing to do. I can only imagine a violent psychopath would get off on doing that to someone.
As it is not consensual the offender should be arrested.
The amount of women who are into this is fucking wild
Right turn off
Had this happen to me in my 20s. He wasn’t trying to hurt me and was shocked because he just thought it was normal. I said (holding my neck) would you like a suprise Indian Burn on your dick without consent? We are not toys to be thrown around and not all of us enjoy domination or pain (in fact most of us don’t) and although unwanted sexual acts happen to women more I include men in this because I know women who have either choked men without consent, asked to be choked when the man is uncomfortable with it. spanked and even attempted pegging without consent. Check what each other is into first.
Ngl ive met very few women in my age bracket who dont enjoy this. Im talking like 1 in 7 or something
Porn is to blame. I have had grown men choke, spit on, slap and stick it up my arse without talking or asking first.
Why would choking someone ever go through your mind during sex?
Parents, talk to your kids about sex, educate them.
Don’t let them learn from “entertainment” or peers you have no control over.
This is so depressing. What happened to love making.
Redditors seem to hate it when you point this out (I wonder why…) but the extreme and easily accessible nature of porn is having a warping effect on people who’s formative impressions of sex and relationships come from pornography.
Why aren’t men asking before doing this? That is actually crazy.
This is something a surprising majority of women (edit: that I have personally known intimately) my age ask for. So I am totally at a loss, is this something that some people want and then others don’t know it’s niche, if it even is niche?
Have these women been abused and have rationalized it? I have no idea but it makes me deeply uncomfortable
Jesus, do so many guys really struggle with consent? If you’re going to try something you *ask* first.
Makes me incredibly uncomfortable being asked to do it to a girl
I fucking hate this trend.
Broke up with a girl because she asked me to choke her. Now I’m all for kinks and fun, but simulating raping and trying to kill someone during sex isn’t cool.
You’re not supposed to actually choke people. You’re supposed to just squeeze the sides of the throat a bit to simulate it.
I initially wrote this as a reply to someone but they deleted before I could send
You shouldn’t be engaging in extreme, high risk kinks with one night stands you just met. The same as you would let someone stick pins in your balls 2 hours after meeting them. Breath play is one of the most dangerous forms of bdsm play, it causes a not insignificant number of deaths, and an unknown amount of brain damage and harm to parts of the neck like the trachea or the thyroid
I’m sorry it’s not sexy enough for you, but if you’re not responsible enough to do the research on how to do breathplay as safely as possible, and to have a grown up conversation with your partner about what each of you wants to get out of a scene and how to do it safely, then you aren’t responsible enough to risk killing or seriously injuring someone for the sake of getting off.
Idecided after an hour or so to put my hand on her throat after she was being pretty rough and doing it to me, the clues where there.
When i did she said “FINALLY!!”.
Some women literally want you to work it out and that teaches guys to do it others.
Women, you’re failure to communicate is hurting other women, stop blaming men for this. I expect some men will do it anyway but people like me need and want communication.
It sucks hearing you are bad in bed and no longer wanted because we can’t read minds
Porn brain rot and too many TikTok’s of random people talking about Choking and what is essentially fantasies and degradation kinks like it’s just something you should automatically do.
All of that stuff should only be conducted between 2 consenting adults with pre agreement beforehand. That’s how exploring kinks, etc is supposed to work.
I could never imagine doing this to my girlfriend, wierd as hell.
Can we be reasonable and approach this as an issue of not seeking consent and sexual entitlement, or are we going to clutch our pearls about kink and porn? I’m sure the comments will not disappoint me.
Say what you want publicly but a lot of girls like it in private and you can’t change that fact.
Its porns fault. men and think that what is going on on a screen while they pull have solo play time is reality and what people want. But it isnt. The people your watching are acters and actresses getting paid to do it. All scripted with safe words. Fantasy basically.
People dont realise that. Strangling someone every time you have sex isnt fun. And not everyone likes it. I have a friend who uses different sites for hook ups now and again, but after the last 5-6 men, shes given up. Every man grabbed her throat, even before any foreplay or penetration. And laugh when she panics as it isnt nice and playful. its full on choke hold. Theres no fun in being frightened. Her words.
There needs to be lessons in school that porn isnt reality.
Yeah I blame porn for this. And it’s so easy to get an addiction. And it forms what people think sex is like especially when they’re young.
I think I’ve started to develop an addiction to some nsfw stuff and it does warp your mind. Especially when it’s that easy to find.
And I’m 34. God knows what it does to younger men
Some people have a one-dimensional imagination.
If the most erotic thing you can think of is almost killing your sexual partner, then you have something **Seriously** wrong with your head.
I basically raised myself on pron and yet still know to signal if some girl wants to be choked. What the hell guys? How bad can you be?